The hardest thing for a person to go through in life can be to see your marriage heading for the disastrous end: Divorce. When the possibility of a divorce comes closer and closer, you can’t help but remember all those great days: The great marriage ceremony, the honeymoon; and all the good days in your marriage. You can’t accept a divorce – and you can’t accept just sitting back and watching your marriage circle down the drain. You want to save your marriage – but you are in despair because you can’t find the right direction in doing so.Maybe these all sound familiar to you. It sure does to me: My marriage was ending. And I know too well the pains, the disappointments, and the heartbreak that is associated with this terrible situation. I too didn’t know what to do to save my marriage. I couldn’t think of anything else than trying to talk my husband out of a divorce. I apologized, I begged… nothing worked.Can we just fast forward to today now? Because today, everything is just as good as they can get! My husband has fallen in love with me a second time – and I in him! Everything has been just perfect for quite some time now!But what happened that changed everything so dramatically?A simple thing. I have been taught the correct way of saving a marriage. I have learned that begging, apologizing and being overall desperate to save your marriage is dead wrong. The correct way is to understand that your spouse is fed up with you. And to keep yourself from applying even more pressure – knowing that it’s only going to make your partner MORE fed up with you. What you should be doing is the exact opposite. What and how?You have to make yourself less reachable. And more “inaccessible”. Why? Because people desire what they CAN’T have, not what they can easily have! And can you see that this principle is to your disadvantage right now? You can turn it to your advantage – it is in your hands! This will make you save your marriage!
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